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Justin's avatar

Your tendency to be tough on yourself is most certainly a crucial ingredient to the secret of your success in life. However, there is a balancing act between “No pain no gain” and kindness to oneself. I suppose that both have the potential to be toxic, probably depending upon what drives the behavior- the motivating force behind it. The motivation to stay alive sort of trumps everything though - you do whatever it takes to succeed. It reminds me of Cortes burning his own ships (https://blog.thecenterforsalesstrategy.com/burn-your-ships-how-to-be-a-great-leader).

Once a path forward is chosen there is no turning back. It is ‘sink or swim.’ So, being kind to oneself has an important place in loving self and others. But when a battle needs to be fought there is no benefit in kindness. Letting the enemy off the hook won’t end well because the enemy here is our own mind. Staying mentally focused on the single goal is one of the biggest challenges of any struggle. But honestly, you’re solid with regard to mastering self discipline, so catching some needed extra zzzz’s Buzzzzz is not something to feel weak about. It is the appropriate part of the balancing act is self care. Even Cortes had to let his soldiers sleep.

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Clive Davies's avatar

Hi Buzz, it sounds as if you are doing very well, time is a great healer and we look forward to your return to Hawaii. Many thanks for your newsletter and I think it has been helpful for you and patients who have to go through similar treatments to yours. Those naps are probably your body telling you you need the rest and it helps reinforce your determination and strength to return to the old Buzz.

With much Aloha

Clive and Carol

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